“Deep within humans dwell those slumbering powers; powers that would astonish them, that they never dreamed of possessing; forces that would revolutionize their lives if around and put into action.” Orison Marden
Have you ever wondered why do some people wall short or quit while some people persist? Why do some organizations or individuals beat the odds? It’s been since forever that humans have been trying to succeed at whatever they have tried to accomplish. We not only want to strive but also want to thrive, but during all of this struggle we’ve always resented failure and while still abhorring it we also fall prey to it letting our negative thoughts and emotions run wild.
Well, we can also use failure to help us grow. Whatever success means to us: some want power, some want money and others just want to have a good I’m act on the world, but we all face failure in life at one point or another. Whatever success is for you, it certainly isn’t something that will come easily. Past holds stories of many people who desire all odds and setbacks raised themselves to the horizons of success that were unknown to man and thy treaded on paths that were untrodden. Behind ever inspirational story, there is an untold story of constant pain, persistent effort and determination. We all can fall but how can we use that setback in our favor.
Failure: maybe a blessing in disguise
Failure can be your best teacher, you have to learn from it. Instead of getting demoralized stand back up and remember whenever you pick yourself up, you always get up stronger. You have to go through the process of analyzing yourself. Write down the mistakes that you think lead to your setback and then work hard to eliminate them. Assessing and analyzing mistakes is a stepping stone to moving higher.
Take baby steps. There are no shortcuts in life and if you want to achieve something big, there’s no such thing as a quick way. The process of struggle is essential to strengthen us. Keep in mind: the greater the ambition, the harder the work you have to do. For instance if you want to take part in a marathon and become an athlete, you cannot start by at once adopting the diet and exercise of a runner. Your trainer would take you gradually through the process by making you run a smaller distance in start. Success comes slowly and that’s the beauty of it.
CHANGE IS IMPORTANT
If you want to achieve something that you have never achieved before, you’ll also have to do something you’ve never done before. After failure you realize your mistakes and so in order to eradicate them in future a process of change is a must. Learn to reroute your path and hard wire your brain for success. Change is important for personal growth. Failure could be your prime time to push your button. We cannot achieve anything unless we’re ready to discard a part of ourselves too. So get out of your comfort zone, get up early, give more time to your work, value your time, make a plan and then stick to it. Psychologist Carol Dweck says there are two basic mindsets that influence how people think about themselves. There’s a fixed mindset in which people believe their success does not depend upon hard work and traits like intelligence are innate and cannot grow. While people with growth mindset believe the opposite and believe they can grow, learn and so they are more likely to achieve their goal. Either you pick the time to instigate the change you want or the time and change will pick you.
Take the example of Albert Einstein, one of the most brilliant minds to have ever lived. He didn’t speak until the age of four. In 1895 he failed entrance exam at I on to Swiss Federal polytechnic School in Zurich. He graduated from university but struggles and nearly dropped out, doing poorly during the course of his studies. He was in such dire straits that his father at the time of his death considered his son to be a major failure. It was many years of struggle after which he finally gave theory of relativity and other theories, finally winning Nobel prize in 1921. So one cannot say when success will fall in your lap. Struggle is the only thing we can do.
DISCARD FEARS FROM YOUR MIND
Studies have shown that successful people can handle failures and that are best critics of themselves. They often exemplify great courage and are willing to take risks even in the face of potential failure. Fear of failure can prove to be greatest hindrance in any sort of step you take to reach towards your goal and decisions made out of fear are destined for disaster.
In order to overcome fears quell negative emotions by focusing on more positive thoughts. Research suggests successful people use positive thoughts to over come fear. J.K Rowling’s Harry Potter was rejected by seven editors before it got published, so you shouldn’t let fear get you. Just be cautious before taking risks, use common sense and go through odds before taking the risk.
“Hope for the best but prepare for the worst” Muhammad Ali Jinnah.
DO WHATEVER IT TAKES: NEVER GIVE UP
Ask yourself what do you want to do the rest of your life? It’ll act like trigger to change your thoughts into actions, making you question the reason of your existence. You’ll realize your worth. People only fail when they give up on their dreams in their times of weakness because their mind gets muddled by the grief and sorrow after failure. Achievers, masters, innovators, and great people do not owe their success to birth, luck or environment. They’re the people who have endured most setbacks in life, they failed repeatedly but they always got back up. Great achievers through history from Michelangelo to Einstein, Madam Curie to Bill Gates, General Eisenhower to Colonel Sanders developed characteristics that when distilled into action despite all odds won them success.
Giving up would be last nail in the coffin to prove you’re a failure. Before giving up think that you’ll have to do something you’re not passionate about and that’s like compromising yourself everyday. If you’ re truly passionate about something be ready to go against all odds and swim against the flow of river. Model success NAD then make plan to achieve it.
Rule of 5 Cs for a Success
You can go by rule of 5 Cs by Chris Gardner: Clear, Concise, Compelling, Consistent, Committed.
What were the odds that Colonel Harland Sanders the founder of KFC at the age of 65 and 105 dollar social security cheque and his recipe in pocket would be so successful because of his fried chicken.
Therefore, by unwavering belief in yourself, determination, steadfastness and hard work there’s barely anything you cannot achieve.